Friday, October 07, 2022

We often think the work to be done is in discipline, boundaries, schedules or rigid expectations when it comes to helping a newly adopted child move forward. And while there is value in schedules and knowing what to expect, the one thing that changes the game when it comes to healing in a child who has been hurt, is having a parent who is aware of their own emotions and knows how to get and stay regulated themselves--even when all the buttons are being pushed.

Wednesday, October 05, 2022

Parenting without punishment is challenging to say the least. But there are ways to do it and still have boundaries. Interestingly enough, when we learned how to help our kids with re-dos we started seeing real differences in their behavior. AND, they began to be more relaxed and happy. Let me show you how re-dos work...

Thursday, September 29, 2022

I discovered two kids that were super cute but according to the system, destined to fail. In the interview to adopt them, we were warned that they would likely be institutionalized by the time they were 13. This is how we met them and why we said yes.